Thou shalt fear the solo traveler

i don't know why, but most of the people around me seem scared by the people who dedicate openly some time to themselves in solitude.

"why do you live ALONE?" 

"why did you decided to travel ALONE?"

"what are you doing there ALONE?" 

they seem incredulous when i invite them in my flat. i should be living with 2, 3, 4 flatmates during my Erasmus. i left some friends shocked when i announced that my travel in Turkey will be an alone trip. in the end why should i travel by myself? i could get bored. i could be in danger. 

we are losing also the consciousness of the pleasure of the "promenade", that's to say: the freedom of stroll with no special destination, usually by ourselves. because 1-why are you walking alone? don't you have friends? and 2-why are you walking nowhere? don't you have something better to do?

the question here is not why everybody wants to live, travel, amble by her\himself. the question is why she or he should have problems about or because of this. 

i have always felt the urge to pass some time relaxing by myself. thinking, taking care of my body, writing, observing...or whatever. 

after all, the first and last relationship that i have is with myself, with my soul. all the other relations that i have and the way i manage them depend upon this important one. 

travelling by myself is something that fascinated me since i was a teenager.

i read the books of solo travelers, describing their travels as a spiritual experience that i have always felt calling me too.  Annie Hawes traveled alone in Morocco and Algeria describing victories and struggles of the solo traveler in an amazing book. i also read blogs of solo female bloggers, like Dangerous Businness that really talked to my heart: 

 I'm just a small-town Ohio girl trying to balance a "normal" life with a desire to discover the world beyond my Midwest bubble. I'm here to prove to people that traveling (and especially traveling as a woman) doesn't have to be scary, lonely, or out of anybody's reach. - Amanda, Dangerous Business @dangerousbiz

for sure, traveling alone requires more attention. that's exactly why i waited so long before doing it.
i was scared, i didn't felt ready to bear this both moral and common sense burden all by myself.
staying with oneself requires courage per se.
people are so scared by staying alone exactly because of this.you face the dragon. you face your worst enemy, and you don't like to think about yourself like that.
if you are a girl, you have also to think about the kind of world you live in. God knows i saw what kind of inhuman patriarchal culture made my gender become socially handicapped. because out there there is human garbage who buys and sells women, rapes and uses and objectify female persons, i have to heavily limit my freedom.

the thing is: i am ready to handle it.
i feel ready to ride the dragon.
i know that it is another level of attention. it is also another level of deepness in a  travel experience.

statue representing The Freedom- Citadel, Budapest